Breakups can hurt. They can be unexpected, unwanted and scary. Breakups can cause you to feel a lot of uncertainty in your life as you face a new reality of living life without this person.
While it may not feel like it, there are some positives to breakups that you should keep in mind:
1. Every relationship teaches you something new. You may have found a more fun side, a more analytical side or a more emotional side of your personality. Broken relationships can teach you what to avoid in the future and what you are looking for in a partner.
2. The fun memories happened. Breakups don’t erase the past. While it might seem sad to reflect on fun times (and I don’t recommend doing this right away) it’s important to remember that it wasn’t wasted time. There were good times but this relationship wasn’t meant to last forever.
3. You are still amazing. Breakups can cause you to doubt yourself (especially if the breakup wasn’t wanted by you), they can cause you to wonder if something is wrong with you. Remember that breakups are a normal part of life, a relationship doesn’t define you, and you are still the amazing person you always were.
Approach the time after a breakup as time you get to spend doing things you love without having to worry about a significant other. Take a new class, start a new hobby, go on a trip you have been wanting to go on. While breakups will never be fun, the time after them doesn’t need to be negative. You are still the wonderful you!